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Step 3 comes in when the two students want to go just one step further. As showing possible interest, while either person can back out at any time. As talked about in step 2, students may be seen “grinding, the act of a women and a man pressing the area around their genitals together”. Step 3 takes place with initiating the hookup. It’s crowdsourced.” The provocative and efficient nature of grinding makes it an easy segway from the partying portion of to the sexual one, the initiation of the hookup itself.Īfter being at the party for a little bit and getting a chance to scope out the scene. A body’s value is determined by collective agreement. To quote Wade “In hookup culture, though, beauty is in the eyes of the beholders, plural. This strategy is key in “winning” the hookup game, as hooking up with someone that their friends deem attractive is a much safer way to gain social standing than getting someone that only the girl finds attractive, as the social value of the hookup depends on how attractive the guy is to girl’s friends, rather than just the girl herself. If the guys does get group approval however, the girl dancing can assume that whoever she is with is a catch.
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If the guy isn’t deemed attractive, the girl can remove herself from the dance, preventing an embarrassing hookup scenario. While grinding may seem like an uncomfortable, demeaning way of finding a partner, as much of the interaction is non-verbal and often initiated without prior approval, it is crucial to filtering out unwanted hookups, since a woman’s group of friends can provide information on whether or not the guy the woman is dancing with is hot or not. Shortly after arriving at the party, students will begin step 2 of the hookup, grinding, the act of a woman and a man pressing the area around their genitals together. On page 28, Wade quotes one of her students who says, “You don’t walk out of the house without your shoes and you don’t walk into a party without a couple shots of vodka.” In the story, it is essential to the hookup process, nobody wants to show up completely sober to the party because the alcohol will give them more confidence. Step 1 of the process is labeled “Pregame”, this step includes getting tipsy before going to the actual party for the night. Along with the story, Wade also uses several college students opinions, on the subject of hooking up, that relate to the storyline. Through the use of a story about two girls (Miranda and Ruby) in college, Wade follows along while going through the steps to hooking up. Within the first chapter of American Hookup by Lisa Wade, there is a detailed list of steps that explains how hooking up on college campus is done.